When enough is enough


I read an article recently about how long you should stay in a job, particularly what the minimum amount of time was. They had numbers around the months and years backed up by research and commentary. It was a good article, full of facts and figures and pitfalls about leaving too early.

Then someone commented (vehemently) that this theory was a crock. Life’s too short, if you’re not happy leave.

I see both sides.

I spent a lot of years in the first camp.

Working 15 hour days. But at a company with a great reputation. Stressed. But the pay was good. Crying on Sundays. But my team were awesome. Frustrated. But where would I go if I left? And round and round we go...

I have a black and white rule now. To be fair, it's pretty obvious.

If you dread going in to work on Mondays, you’re in the wrong role or the wrong job – change it.

The action (making changes internally, looking elsewhere etc) depends on the reason(s), and whether you can change the triggers.

Is it Stress. Overwhelm. Frustration? Are you Undervalued. Exhausted. Overworked? Are you being pressured and feeling guilty?

Look internally first - What would make this role better?  Who can help you?

Make the change/request/proposal.

Has anything changed?

  1. Yes – woohoo!
  2. No – look elsewhere...

I agree from an employers point of view, lots of jobs on your CV doesn’t look good, but really this should only happen to you once, twice at most.

If it’s happening more than that – I’m afraid you should have a look in the mirror. It’s not that you're in the wrong, but it is likely you’re the one that needs to make a change – the job, the role, the career, your attitude to the situation.

Staying or going is a choice - make sure it's a conscious one.

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

Just promise me you’ll always try and head towards something great, and have a plan in place.

Running away is a surefire way to end up in the same situation in 12 months time. 

Facing up to the situation and planning your next move puts you back in control. 

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